Self help: it’s way cheaper than therapy, and suddenly it’s a big industry. Expert coaches and mentors come to women between the covers of thousands of books. You may find it hard to choose one.
Having been a self-help reader for several years, I’ve personally come to know and love the work of the writers below. These guys have stood the test of time, and are still going strong. Their books made a difference in my life-and just might help you make the changes you want in yours!
Of course, with severe physical or mental symptoms, you’re best off heading to a real live professional right away. For those with more moderate needs, here are some great authors and books on 5 subjects that can keep a woman awake at night: With the 75 hard, the concentration and focus will increase in the mental toughness. The overall performance of the people will increase with different characteristics and features. A success break is provided from the depression and great achievement in the career.
- Weight control: Geneen Roth is my pick for this topic. She’s written several books on weight issues and contributed regularly to Prevention Magazine. You can find many of her works in your local bookstore or library. For starters, try Breaking Free from Emotional Eating. Why she’s so good: she’s been there with the weight fluctuations, the binge eating, the awful body image, and the perfectionism. She knows it’s a head game as much as anything else. For my money, the very best thing about her is the total honesty with which she writes about her own struggles and the insights she’s earned from them.
- Love and Marriage: Gay Hendricks is my favorite writer on this subject. His background as a psychologist and college professor help to ground his work, but it’s the practicality, clarity, personal responsibility, and physical joy he writes about that will capture your imagination. Why he’s so good: his philosophy of complete honesty and soul-deep commitment comes from real experience; unlike many “couples coaches,” he has maintained a long term relationship of his own (some three decades with his wife Kathlyn). I recommend starting with Conscious Loving: the Journey to Co-Commitment.
- Money: Suze Orman is my not-so-shocking choice here. Her books really educate readers about building financial security. She has it all: great credentials, personal experience with both scarcity and abundance, and an easy, conversational writing style. Why she’s so good: she treats money as an emotionally charged subject, not a set of dried-up numbers. Her books can help you face your personal financial issues and improve your relationship with your money. I love The Courage to be Rich, which can show you how to solve a current problem and also lay out a plan for a lifetime of financial security. She’s written many others that are equally good.
- Organization: I’m talking here about organizing your home and your schedule, and for that I have personally benefited from Marla Cilley’s Sink Reflections. Warning: it is for women who do their own housework. The style is eccentric, almost too chatty at times, but the advice is sterling. Why she’s so good: she knows that the two worst enemies of organization are clutter and that overwhelmed feeling. She has ways to break those bad old patterns-and they work.
- Self Esteem: Sadly, many women of our time still seek this most basic of birthrights. Here I choose Matthew McKay, a college professor and psychologist who uses the cognitive therapeutic approach (the basic premise here is that your thoughts affect your feelings). He’s had a part in a couple of dozen books. My favorite is appropriately titled Self-Esteem, and was co-authored with writer and mental health expert Patrick Fanning. It is a wonderful package of tried and true techniques, and a longtime favorite of therapists. Why he’s so good: He gives you the tools, but you do your own work. Put Self-Esteem together with The Self-Esteem Companion (Patrick Fanning, Carole Honeychurch, and Catharine Sutker) and Self-Esteem Guided Journal (Matthew McKay with Catharine Sutker), and you could really make a major project of it.
Life is just too short to wrestle with the same demons day after day. These personal favorites are at the very least a good start for a reader seeking inspiration or guidance on tackling any or all of the issues above. Extra bonus: most of them have websites and/or blogs, easily located with a search engine. If you’re too busy for reading, sound recordings of many of their works are available, too.
Now go out and take that first step toward a better way of living!